Giggity Giggity.. Giggity Goo

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Jar, & others, thanks for the feedback earlier & you were all right in that I was over-thinking.

Now, Jar, Holy $h1t.... I must admit, I would definitely have cut ties with the spouse by now. And I definitely agree with Hurtin about documenting EVERYTHING. It really sounds like she's looking for affirmation of her beauty through the attention of other men, yet knows it and isn't doing anything about it. The reason I believe she knows it, is she wouldn't have asked you to be there when her BF's friend was there while her BF was at dinner. It's as if she wanted the guy's attention but knew she was too weak to not give in to any advance he may make toward her. Definitely scary situation for your Ds.

I would not want to get back into a R with someone who hasn't dealt with their esteem issues. But, I can also understand loving them and wanting them to get to a healthy place too. I've never loved anyone the way I love my H now and can only thank God above for having me hang in there, cause a big part of me wanted to just walk away and start over.

But, sometimes we know a person's potential and that alone gives us hope. The question you have to ask yourself is if your W really has the potential to be the person she needs to be. In other words, was the self-esteem ever in her to begin with at one time and maybe she just lost it along the way for some reason?

What helped me to hang on to my H was that I knew what type of person he was when we first got together and that he had somehow just got lost. My first H was not the same and I honestly never wanted to make it work with him. Maybe I should have for my son's sake, but I think I knew he would always have some type of emotional issues and would not get the needed counseling.

I'm praying for your W and for God's guidance for you.

I hope you have a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO EVERYONE HERE!!!! YOU ALL DESERVE THE MOST WONDERFUL CHRISTMAS EVER!!!!!!!