formless utterings...

[sgctxok]

Ironically, you've made all these changes because she's so important to you...but she isn't feeling that important.

Now I am not on her side. I think she's a fool. But don't worry about being perfect, in fact that would probably work against you.

But you can do this. Ask her questions about her thoughts, her interests, make her feel important. Build ... small doses. You can do this.