Quite a hectic day - Spent pretty much all of it with W, which was nice.
I called her this morning because she said that D was going to make cookies at the IL's today, so I was curious what time they were going over. She said it'd be after nap time, but that I could come over now and we could all get lunch together. D was really excited to see me when I got to W's house, so we gathered stuff together and went for lunch. W was really quiet and cranky - If I made a joke, she would find fault with it, so most of lunch was kind of quiet. We put D down for her nap after we got back to W's, and W and I watched some TV, talked about some non-R related stuff and mostly just relaxed. We got D up from her nap and drove over to IL's house and waited for W's sister to show up with her H and their kids. We had a LOT of fun at the IL's and D crashed in the car on the way home (it was pretty late anyway).
W and I talked a lot on the drive home - A lot of R talk. She told me that it wasn't my fault that we had problems and that she has a lot of issues when it comes to dealing with stress and managing herself (stuff like money). She made lots of comments about how I 'did all you could' and 'I don't blame you for anything'. W was very critical of herself and pretty much blamed it all on her - I made a point of taking responsibility for the things I did wrong, and left it at that. W talked some about OM and this 'other' girl he is getting involved with. I didn't ask about him having a gf or whatever, but it sounds like a total disaster. W also talked a lot about her lack of independence when she is in an R and that she feels overwhelmed at times when she feels like she has to justify everything she does to someone. I validated and agreed with her on a lot of points and expanded a couple with my own thoughts that she agreed with.
When we got back to W's, we put D to bed and we ended up hugging a lot before I left. She asked me if I was doing okay, and I said that I was, and W told me that she was concerned about money, but she thought she'd figure it out. At one point she asked me if I was trying to 'feel her boobs', so I said "No, if I wanted to feel your boobs I'd do this" and, well, you get the idea. She told me to stop, but didn't go totally mental, which is progress. Yeah, I overstepped a boundary there, but she didn't seem too concerned about it.
I even got a bunch of hugs and kisses in after that, plus she called me 'sweetie' when she told me she loved me. When we were messing around at her parents' she noticed that I had gained some weight back and wanted to play with my tummy - She grabbed me and poked it when I left tonight and she told me that I looked better with some weight and she thought it was cute.
She asked earlier about Christmas, so I suggested that she comes over for dinner on Christmas Eve and maybe stays over with D so we can do Christmas morning together. When I left tonight she seemed a little closer to deciding to stay over, but she said she wanted to see how D slept tonight - No idea what that has to do with anything, but I told her to just let me know tomorrow what she wants to do.
I think that is about it - I'm totally exhausted tonight.
