NikB's latest update (#23)

[S.T. _I Made It!]

that sounds really positive. positive in regards to YOU.

Let's just look at a scenerio if you HAD acted upset and freaked. If you had actually reached him and gotten upset, made it about you, do you think he would have come home? or even been so nice the next morning?
If you hadn't reached him and he came home at 3:30 and your all upset crying and freaking out, then he would have got defensive, and thought... oh great, here we go again, I can't do anything. blah blah blah.

But instead, you were calm, not upset and blaming, but just a nice genuine worry that wasn't obsessive. He was able to apologize and not get defensive, and the whole thing is past and he is being more pleasant.

True, I don't think that if you guys were in a "real" M that his action was okay, because that's definitely not something a M person whould do... very inconsiderate. But I'm kinda thinking that he probably won't be doing this again too soon.

So glad your whole family had a good time for Christmas at your dads. wish he would let go more, but at least it sounds like he's doing a wee bit better.


what about your sis? I doubt that your mil stayed the night, so how did she do when mil left?