Lunch/Dinner (What ever you call eating at 2:30 in the afternoon?) went well. No R talk but we just chatted about what's going on in each others lives. She bought the food which is a first.
We then went out to the lake to watch the storm come in and exchange gifts. The waves were kicking up really big so it was pretty cool to see. She really liked the stuff that I got her so that was good. She got me something that I looked at six months ago and told her that I thought it was cool. She had to drive an hour one way to get it. Super cool that she remembered and took the initiative to go that far to get it.
Then we went to get some coffee which she bought too. At first she was sitting a long ways away in this circular booth. Then she scooted around closer. Not leaning up against me close, but touching legs close. I'm desperate, so I'll take what I can get. She commented on how good I was looking and told me that she was telling her friends how much weight I lost and how good I looked. She touched my arm a bunch and then left it there for a while. I reached over and put my hand on top of hers and then we ended up holding hands for a few minutes. I know it doesn't sound like much, but it felt really intimate and I loved it.
We went back to get my car and we said good bye. I got a couple kisses and a hug. In all we spent a little over two hours together. It was really nice. I must have done something right because she mentioned getting together on Christmas day now too. She wants me to call her on my way home from my parents house. So Yea!
Also, a little new information about the Christmas cards I sent out (To her parents and grandparents.) I don't remember who brought it up, but she ended up telling me that she heard all about the cards. She said that when she's at her parents house her Dad will walk by my card, point to it and make a sad face. At least I know that her parents don't hate me. I told her that wasn't my intention on sending them. That I cared about her family and just wanted to send them a card. I told her that I sent ones to my family and some of my friends too. She said that she knew...
Peace, B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
Well done B, I'd give everything to hold hands much less a kiss and hug...so I'd say that is more than "not much". Just keep up what you are doing. Heck she wants you to call her and meet up x-mas. That sounds like best x-mas present ever...
I know. I've told her before when she said that she couldn't buy me much that a hug was worth a lot more to me. We'll see what happens on Christmas. I'm going to leave her be until then. I toyed with the idea of calling or texting her to tell her thanks again for today, but I'm afraid that it might be overboard. What do you think? I want her to know that I appreciate her paying for stuff today and for the gift. Maybe I'll wait and see if she calls me...
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
Amen to that ,I would love any kind of physical contact with my wife.We get along great as friends but that's all she wants right now. I of course want to grab her and hold her and give her a kiss etc.etc,but I know I have to be patient and wait on her. I told her a while back that any kind of intimate talk or interaction between would be up to her,that I would back off and let her make the first move,and she has been more at ease around me since.
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Married 28 yrs Seperated 6 mths Rec D Papers 11/24 W Canceled D Moved Back Home 3/1/08 2 Kids D23 and S16 Trying 2 Put R Back Together
W just called to see if I made it home alright... Five hours after we parted company... Me thinks that she was just looking for an excuse to call. Nothing much to report. Just chit - chatted for a while. Back to watching my movie...
Also, I forgot to mention something about earlier. She didn't say anything, but I caught her looking at my ring a couple times. Who knows what she was thinking. I didn't have it on the past few times we were together, so me having it back on is something different...
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Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
Me thinks ur doing just fine...like I said before she is calling you...that tells me you are on her mind...I'd love nothing more to know if I was on WAW's mind. So, be happy you are on the right track.
W just called to see if I made it home alright... Five hours after we parted company... Me thinks that she was just looking for an excuse to call. Nothing much to report. Just chit - chatted for a while. Back to watching my movie...
Sounds like some good progress was made - At least you're talking again and she enjoyed spending time with you.
Why don't you plan to have a follow up contact after you get together each time, or something? Nothing too crazy, just sometime to keep communication going between you both.
That sounds like a good idea. She usually calls me afterwards anyways though, but maybe I should beat her to it once or twice. I really hope that we can keep the communication going again. The last two weeks were pretty rough.
I hope you have a great Christmas too.
Peace, B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
Hope you have a great Christmas and that you see a few more positives. Just remember this cycling she is doing is to be expected. I think the fact that she's doing it is a good sign....my H is still stuck in "itsoveritsoveritsoveritsover" mode.
Anyway, HAPPY HOLIDAYS! J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
