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W came home while I was there. I was happy, upbeat and in a great mood. Told her she looked nice, did she do something to her hair? She was friendly and outgoing, not going to read too much into that. Asked if I was invited to Christmas Eve at her sisters house, yes if I wanted to come. Of course she fell asleep while I was there. D19 was singing with GS as loud as she could, W didn't wake up

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Hey, Mike sounds as if you had a Great Time with you GC, that is so nice to hear. Kids give us hope and lift our spirits so high and you certainly need lifting. lol
W sounds as if she maybe having different thoughts about what is going down. Hope so. She sounds very tired and depressed too. Depressed I can relate to, lol. See holidays are going to work out ok for you. Maybe your wife will stop by for turkey and I were you, I'd would go to IL on Christmas Eve. Even if for a few minutes. the holiday joy and happiness lets one forget the present if only for a hour or two. Go and have Christmas cheer with everyone. I love good pizza. Is your's NY style or mid west style? I'm more the NY spicie style myself.

Had to leave for a Christmas party, told W it was so good to see her and I'd like to take her out for dinner after I'm back to work, she agreed. I'm not going to try and read too much into that either. I'd like to talk to her about seeing a C, don't know if I should. Got an article out of readers digest, guy wrote in his W works and comes home and sleeps. Sounds familiar, Doc wrote she needs to see a therapist she is depressed.

dinner with you is a good sign. This will give wife a chance to see you are "different" not changed. She needs to see a different person than the one she left or at least that is how I see it. I fear your wife is very depressed as I've said before, unless you have been there you can't really understand. Worse yet the person depressed doesn't realize how out of touch they are. Can't understand why W keeps with such a strange work hours if she really doesn't have to.??? Just doesn't make a lot of sense but then MLC never does. Take her to dinner and let her just enjoy the evening. Might try selecting three or four places to eat and ask her which one she prefers.
Seeing a C???? Way I see most people react is they assume C is going to judge them. Rather should be more C is helping each see better ways to solve problems. As I read in one book, like two people being on a seesaw, no matter what takes place if one party moves it affects the other and this is sorta marriage. Not a matter of is the move right or wrong it is about our moves affect the other person. C should help us see how and realize people see everything differently. think about it, IE: my family was very involved in politics, grew up in the public eye. So for me, actions around others is very important and should be handled a certain way. Well H didn't grow up in such a household so we have conflict! My H grew up always trying to keep his mother happy, as if he is responsible for this. Well then if I am having a bad day, he thinks it is him. This drives me crazy!! then back to my family, surprises around anyone other than within family is not good (public life) so sitting with a C and have H bring up unknown is unnerving to me. Am I any help. ?? Back to your W, Might try asking her if she thought you should try MC to better understand her hurt????? Maybe then if conversation goes well could ask if she would come after a bit or would care to join you. I wouldn't just come out and ask her if she would try MC I think she would run and feel judged. IMO

Have you heard from H? Are you getting him a gift? I got W a digital picture frame, I'm going to load it with school pics of the kids thru the years, vaca pics, family and grandkids pics. hopefully she might see that all the times weren't bad.

LOL, I couldn't figure out what you were ref. the digital pic. frame, other than digital pics. Well in store and there is a digital pic. frame. lol Quite nice and i am sure she will enjoy.
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