Personally I think it's due to a domineering mother who the M might say in retrospect about his upbringing, something to the effect of:
"If my mother ever caught me MBing into that sock in my bedroom she would have dropped two brass door knobs into her heavy duty wire Maidenform bra and flogged me unconscious about the head and shoulders, before shipping me off to a French monastery."
Sure, blame the mother. LOL. I remember hanging out with a good fellow easy-going earth mother type friend when both of our sons were around 2 and it was like we'd look up from our coffee and gossip and say "I guess we ought to take the kids to the park. They've been sitting there playing with themselves for about an hour now. They must be bored."
Of course, in my sich, it was never that clear. My 2bx would tell me to be more submissive one week and more dominant the next. Maybe I'm wrong but I think a lot of guys will vibe more submissive if they're depressed or in a situation that renders them submissive outside of the sexual arena. The most dominant I ever remember my 2bx being was on an occasion where he had just quit a job and basically told his boss to f*ck-off. Anyways, the vast majority of our sex was of the "do me", do you" monkey-in-the-middle variety.
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Just requires the F losing the telepathic "I-want-sex-now-why-isn't he-noticing-me-wiggle-my butt-against-him-in-bed-and-pounce? I hate initiating/I shouldn't have to boo-hoo resentment, which, the M will pick up on subconsciously and unconscioiusly sabotage his own self-esteem and libido.
You might not be reflecting on my sich but I assure you I initiated sex quite aggressively on occasion and was rejected. Everybody wants their partner to initiate sometimes. Most people prefer that the male initiates 2/3 of the time.
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"Go to your room. You're not getting this back until you've finished your math homework, young lady. NOW. There WILL be consequences."
Okay. I'm going to go to my room and do a really fun math puzzle and then enter a coloring contest and if I win I will get a Barbie Dream Car with gold trim to match my new hoodie with the big gold zipper and then I will drive around town until I see GI Joe in his jeep next to me at a stoplight and then it will be little red-shoe to the fake pink plastic metal time, oh yeah.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
