Dear Lillieperl, It's more complicated than I know how to explain without repeating what I've already said in previous posts. But knowing you care means so much to me. It is about to drive me out of my own home b/c of this goes on and on all the time. It is one of those things that my parents were so opposite about in their lives and taught me to be that way....on the other hand, my H isn't anything like they were or I am. You would think after all these years that I would get use to it, but it just grinds against my nerves and I can't seem to relax about it. The dog isn't ours....it's our GS, but as soon as he gets back home (he's out of town), I'm going to talk to him about finding another place for his dog. The problem is, my H has gotten so attached to the dog, I don't know if he will agree to it. I've tried to explain how the children wouldn't be able to play with the dog and how it would keep everything destroyed, but he won't listen. I'm sorry for going on and on about this when there are people having such more serious problems than I am......but I'm trying to keep it together to get through Christmas without ruining it for everybody else. I can't see my H doing his income taxes and cleaning the yard all before the time limit. I can help on part of the taxes, which I already have that part done, but where his "employment" stuff is concerned....he has to do that. I don't believe the bank will release the cars to be sold since it is tied up in with another loan, at least that is what my H tells me. So, it seems we are stuck in a very bad situation.

Thanks for caring. I need it very much right now.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!