thanks Heim. I was kinda wondering. although my H found my thread somehow.. I know it was God's plan (long story) and later he actually said that was part of the reason he started changing his mind. So hopefully it will be a positive thing for her that he snooped.

CVA... I agree with Heim that it is definitely possible your W could give you what you need, as you can for her. I think it has a lot to do with pride though. when you've gone thru your R for so long in rejection, or whatever, I think it is difficult for people to humble themselves and become vulnerable. I know it was for me, but it can prove to be rewarding.

hope you all have a wonderful Christmas!

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."