Waiting for WAW to come back, patience is a virtue

[DaveJ]

FLTC, yeah apparently potential OM stopped wanting to talk with W. Apparently he is a "strong Christian", whatever that's suppose to mean, and no longer wants to even be friends with W after finding out she's married. Ironically they met at the "strictly platonic" section of Craigslist. Obviously this guy was looking for more than just platonic... I'm wondering if it's his value thats stopping him, or realizing that because my W is still married, his hidden agendas won't be met or at least not as quickly and not worth his time. That's the reason W really started pushing for D. She's getting all the paperworks and etc now unlike before. I guess the being married status is hampering her after feeling rejection from the guy. Of course he still texts her and say hi, but won't hold conversations with her ATM. I'm wondering if he'll come back in the picture once the D goes through. Of course if he's really a supposedly strong Christian, he should know the scripture and tell my W to go back and fix the M because she has no grounds for a D at all, period. According to a pastor I talked to, even if W gets a D legally, in God's eyes the M still stands because she doesn't have any grounds to have the D. But, that's for God to judge and not me. Bottom line is if it's not this guy it would be someone else. She is determined to be with someone else for whatever reason. She just wants to be "happy". Me, I still have a lot of thinking to do about what I want and where do I want to go with my life. I'm fighting the urge to do something to not feel so alone. If I did that and jumped right into dating, then I would be doing exactly what she is doing. Fixing long term issues with short term solution. I really need to figure out how I can be ok and happy by myself. After all, if I can't do that, I won't have a healthy relationship with whomever it may be....