WAW staying, I'm leaving to give her space..(2)

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This D is virtually busted..as long as I stay the course & no suprises.

Don't believe that problems that took years to fester can be corrected in two months....

....It is so easy not to keep the mindset going. So easy.

Keep working on you and your changes. Be the MAN that she wants to be with. Have no expectations of her.

I never said I was done, I know everything isn't corrected yet. "stay the course", means doing what I need to do, consistent & permanent change, listening to W's wants/needs/fears, not expecting anything, preventing myself from repeating past mistakes, etc... I'm just saying MAJOR breakthroughs/understandings happened over the weekend. We had a very important, productive discussion & things are really starting to happen.

There were lots of things discussed by both of us & there will be more discussions, I'm sure. A couple examples: W said if I continue being the MAN I am, our M has a very good chance. I said, I'm going to be better than this, I've just started. W has put her rings back on (without me asking at all) & saying ILU & meaning it. W said to me not to get cozy in the apt because she wants me to come back home. W talking about future together, taking a vacation together in the spring without kids so we can 'catch up'. Many other things but I think that's enough examples for now where it's going. I really think this is the 'real deal'. It's gonna take alot more work, but it's not just me anymore, it's both of us making the effort.

I guess all I am trying to get across is that alot has happened on multiple levels this weekend, I know I'm not done but things are looking pretty peachy (as good as they have been in a year, at least). The tide has turned for the better.