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Hey, sorry if I got some of my facts wrong re: your history... I was operating from memory... but my point was exactly what Stig said... everyone can see exactly what went wrong when viewed from the 20/20 hindsight lense.

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True as well. So do you recommend people make life altering financial and marital and familial decisions during this 'feeling' of crisis? It was one of the mistakes I made, but it was that or another bad choice that I was losing control over.


No... I don't think anyone should make major decisions in such states... part of the problem, though, is recognizing when you ARE in such a state. Often times you don't feel like you are in a crisis.

That is stating the obvious, though. 20/20HS again.

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I think that is advice Mojo will have trouble implementing, because she, like me and most of us, doesnt date with Intent.


Yeah... it sounds horrible, doesn't it? But don't most of us 'date' because we'd like to find someone interesting to spend time with, have fun, maybe even meet 'The One'? Isn't your intent to get laid? (I'm not pointing fingers here... just wondering about what you consider... 'intent.')

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How about the one who is least ego-invested controls the relationship? Of course, wanting to be validated for being "loving" is a form of ego-investment. I think it could be a very loving gesture to become less ego-invested in a relationship.


Yeah, I think you could say it this way... sounds more PC anyway. \:\) Personally, I think the word 'control' is a bit harsh, but... anyway... you get the gist of the phrase to begin with, regardless of how it is stated.