Need to ask about the "Fog" of people in affairs

[Michael Mc C]

Wow Choc. That's right on the money with what happened here. Oct 22nd W's OM walked away. It took just about 4 weeks before things became pleasant around here. We started goofing around together, flirting, kissing. It almost felt normal. At the end of the 4th week he made contact and she was gone completely - told me everything that had occurred in the past week was a lie and that she was just trying to be normal again.

OM is gone again (for now anyway) but she has worked so hard to fulfill her prophecy that I wonder if there's any chance. She has a new support network - her brother overseas whom she hasn't seen since she was a kid (and whom I've never met in 20 years), a friend who had a similar situation and people online that she has known for less than a year. These new friends support her and tell her what she needs to hear. They give her the validation she needs to remain in her fog, even without OM around.