Need to ask about the "Fog" of people in affairs

[Michael Mc C]

All I can say is that your W is exhibiting the normal foginess that we've all seen to some degree. The why's and how's aren't easily determined. The choices that they make are no longer meshing with the way the spouse used to act, think and respond. That's the whole alien part.

My W has acted very irrationally over the past months and it just boggles my mind. She has come right out and told me that she was being selfish, she knew she was going to hurt the kids and friends and family and that it was something she just had to do.

She feels that she has sacrificed so much of her life to make others happy that she is now taking the opportunity to do something for herself.

I've seen her coming out of the fog but only when OM was out of the picture for a while. As soon as he came back, all progress was shot and the fog was thicker than ever before.