His father died the September before. He spent 11 months trying to keep him alive. Always with him at hospital or nursing home-almost every day after work and on weekends.
I can see where this would have a profound effect on someone. He was tilting at windmills. He was fighting a battle he couldn't possibly win. He had a reason and I have no idea what that might be. But this is something he will have to come to terms with. It's not happening now and I would be unable to tell you how long it will take.
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I'm not sure where I want him to sleep or if I should hope for sex.
get that right out of your mind. Let him decide where he wants to sleep.
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It's killing me that I don't know what he is doing.
So then stop thinking about it. What's killing you is that you assume he might be screwing his friend.
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I did not invite him to my family's on Xmas day because i know he would refuse and because my mother would kill him!
How do you know unless you ask. As for your mother, the reason she would kill him is because you have probably told her that you suspect he is sleeping with another woman.
Look, I do not know what is happening with your H other than to know he does appear to be going through a crisis. If you want to have a chance of saving this marriage, you will have to be understanding. Yes, you. You are the one who has her wits about her. You have already told us he doesn't. You should be understanding at this point because you do not know if he is actually doing anything other than trying to figure things out.
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It's like he wants his feet in both worlds and I'm just suppose to wait!!
That is correct. While i don't like the idea that he has a person of the opposite to confide in, there isn't anything you can do about it. So yes, you do have to wait. If you don't want to wait, then go file for divorce. I am being extreme, but I think you get my point. You have to wait.
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He moved out the week after school started. He moved into his dead fathers empty house. Has bought a bed, TV, kitchen stuff. Took an old sofa from here and the computer. Besides his clothes, that's all he has.
I'm a man. This does not sound like a man who is having a relationship (in the sense you fear) with a woman.
MrsLBW, I know this is difficult for you. I understand. But you have to be strong. You have to keep the anger in check. You have to keep your mother from injecting her anger into this.
