Thanks for your input. My wife is a beautiful person really. I do not respect her for what she did and how she did it but deep down she has a good heart and that is why I married her.
She has not filed for D yet but says she is in January. However, she is not overjoyed about doing it. I have asked if she wants a divorce and all shes says is "nobody wants a divorce". She also says that she does not want to talk about it if I bring it up (I know that I should n't bring it up).