LO, Wow, you sound so detached. Kudos to you!! I agree with ourcrises, I love goal #4 and also need to a goal #1! In fact, it's sort of my New Year's resolution.
I think you should talk more about your male co-worker in front of your H! Sounds like he is jealous!!! He's letting you go but isn't happy knowing that someone else may be there for you. I agree, how ironic...
