ppssstt, my thread locked up but I wanted to let you know I got a tree. I told H I was thinking about getting one and asked if he would help get one, fit it in the stand, and get it in the house. He said he'd help get it in the house. I said how about helping fit it in the stand too? he said he supposed so.
Just before I left I couldn't help but be all but laughing and H said what? I said remember the time the kids and us all went and picked out a tree and cut it down ourselves, and it was wide as the living room! Then I asked if I went another time if he would want to come along to pick out a tree, he shook his head. Then I asked if I should get the tree before or after sex. He was surprised but hid his smile, and said what are you talking about. I laughed and said I don't know!
I know what you mean about keeping a messy room to use that as an excuse for the rejection. Easier than dealing with the real reaason? I know you've said too that she won't get a new mattress until the credit card bills are paid, but uh, if she won't even sleep on that mattress then why does she expect you too? go get yourself a new bed!!!!! Man up and let her know that you don't expect to let ALL of your needs go ignored.
