Sorry to hear you're going through such a rough patch leading up to the separation. I can completely understand that the whole situation feels utterly unreal and wrong. That's how I felt, lots of 'this is wrong, I don't want this, why is it happening?' thoughts. I guess all I can say is try to find small things to keep you busy and raise a smile, however small. Also use the time to concentrate on you.
I couldn't stand the thought of watching my W packing so I agreed to be away when she went. I rang round until I found someone who could take me in and keep me busy (a big thank you to my brother-in-law). I think doing it that way helped as did having a very short, relatively clean goodbye. Will you have some help while you pack, i.e. someone to support you? I presume he is going to keep living in the house?
There's not much I can say that will be of comfort, it's an awful thing to have to go through. I am sorry anyone has to go through it. I can't believe the WAS doesn't feel some negative emotions, but they are further down the track or living in their own version of reality by this stage. All I can say is there will be a lot of people thinking about you over the next few days.
Take care,
Max
Me 36 W 37 Bomb (Easter 07) Sep (WAW July 07) "It's over" (end Oct 07) T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)
