Keep track of what your giving her as for money. Make copies of it all and keep the records.
I've been thinking about your sitch and how we can achieve some contact. So could you post up what type of contact is occuring, who is initiating it, how the contact goes, your perceptions of why, and is there follow up by either party.
What I'm thinking is depending on what you say, maybe some mystique is in order. Lets get her mind running a little bit. Don't lie or anything, but you don't have to answer her questions.
For instance at one point, my sister had bought a new car and was visiting, unintentionally after I sent S out the door with W, she didn't come in. She was curious as all could be. Caught her driving by, called the next day with some lame excuse, asked who was there last night, "Oh, just a friend." Drove her nuts, she started to contact more and more.
Even making a new guy friend to go fishing with or something. W can't stand that I don't tell her everything about new friends, even when they aren't women. She thinks it's my new wing man to go out and pick up girls. Drives her nuts.
Not that you want to stir up negative emotions, but maybe it can initiate some contact, if she seems frustrated about it you can say it is just a friend, I'm not dating or anything like that, I'm still married. Then just leave it at that. Gives her some reassurance but doesn't let her read the whole book of you.
