I told IC that I could not be objective. I cannot help him, but I'm not going to hurt him, either. He IS a smart man and I know he will find his way (I've watched him do it on several occasions). You may think that is me being unfeeling or unfair, but quite honestly, it is the most honest and fair thing I think I can do for him, and I told him as much.
Sorry this has touched a tender cord in you. But it seems you are not the only one who's tender cord has been touched... and different people act/react in different ways when tender cords are involved.
