FTLC, I have the same feelings going through me at times. My W is still pointing all her fingers at me. Accoring to her...I got us in this situation. If I'm in pain, I caused it all. If I didn't want the family apart and children go through this, well, I should've thought about that when I didn't treat her right. Well you know what, it took two of us to get here, not just me. Experience your anger and grief. It is healthy to not run away from them. Just don't hold onto them like my W does. It only hurts the person that holds on and makes he/she a very very bitter person. We will all get through this and be ok. It's a very painful life lesson for us. But on the positive side, we are addressing our faults, they aren't. We will be better off in the end. They will be in the second/third/whatever marriage stats as the failures. They think by cutting us off they have fixed their problem. Oh boy are they wrong when they find out with the next person that they still have the same problems plus more.
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
