Cat, my sympathies and welcome.

All I'm hearing in your words right now is fear. Understandable, but not a good platform to be operating from. Scared people do stupid stuff and second-guess everything to their own detriment. Assume for a moment that he is *definitely* going to stay with you and work to rebuild. You are still determined to change the previous dynamic, fix your stuff, and demonstrate/communicate how much he means to you. What do you do?


"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes.
Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert