day by day

[Michael Mc C]

I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear that your H is doing this. So close to Christmas too. You're right about the lack of respect for everyone but they just don't care about anyone else at this point, regardless of what they might say.

You know the answer of course, detachment. But damn it's hard to do, especially when you were counting on at least having a pleasant holiday.

Let your anger and hurt help you become detached. Remember that you are protecting yourself and your kids. It's not easy because you don't want to hold onto that anger and hurt but you want to focus the memory of them into your detaching. I've tried and it works to some degree. You'll need to get yourself to a place where you can be unaffected by actions such as this. I keep saying "It's W mess." Not quite detached but it keeps me from thinking I have any responsibility in bailing her out.

You love him but you cannot do anything to help him at this point.