Hellooooo!! You up n running yet

I loved the anklet! It was very pretty & dainty \:\) I hope she likes it. If she doesn't, accidently lose it and send it my way

I have been thinking about your wife....hmmm, she not only has built walls but I would guess that its a cement fortress!! To keep all her "deposits" in. The question is, how do we make withrawals without being accused of ROBBERY?

A good guess from what you said is she has some sexual issues going way back to the beggining. That one you cannot tackle on your own, she needs to understand this and do it for herself. Your wife is one smart woman!! if she can get 4.0's then she knows there is something wrong with her...but she isn't letting her guard down.

So, we need to try to address some other things first, kinda soften her up a bit. Uhm lets go back to the thing she still brings up.....you sitting in a pile of unopened boxes. She's worked all day, gets home and your sitting there Some women and men feel the need to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders....she's one of them. Your not. Sooooo....you are going to have to buck up and see if you can lift some weight off for her. Go the extra mile. Not only are you doing it for her, but your making a change within yourself that you've always wanted....to not be so laid back.

Her making the comment of "Why aren't you looking elsewhere" to me says....HEY! I'm hurting here!! Because if she was not interested in what you were doing or not doing on this matter, she wouldn't ask.

Now back to YOU! This is going to have to be a choice you make, and you are going to have to stick with it. Lets go back and remember why we are here, to save our marriage. But first there are things that need to be done. It's all about change. Problem solving and solutions.

Change....by changing what you do, it automatically changes what she does. Example, she arrives home and not everything is accomplished on the "honeydo" list, your going to get the same results as alwasy. She's going to be Tired, Angry, Upset and then feel that she cannot leave you with a few simple things to do. Therefore, justify everything she says. OR She arrives home EVERYTHING plus other nice things are done. What has she to say....except WOW, thank you! Of course you may not hear this, but it will cause a change in her. Eventually, if you keep this change a permanent one and she feels "safe" again, this will start solving some of your problems.

So if this is what you want, your gonna have to fill up that gas tank dude and put it into actions! Actions speak louder than words. Nothing says "I love you" more than coming home to a clean, well organized house after being gone for so long. Especially, in your case

This is just a starting point Jeff....so don't expect a miracle. It takes more than one change, it takes consistency. Go the extra mile while she is gone!!

Hugs Dude!

Jeanette

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