Before I found DB which was about a month in I begged, pleaded, tried to reason with her, tried to tell her things would be different, and etc. These were all just words to her and only made her feel guilty for what she was doing and feeling. Guilt was not enough reason for her to come home and if it was it wasn't a good reason.
Then I found DB and realized that I had to actually change and I had to do it now. So, I did. It wasn't and hasn't been easy, but the results are rewarding. It took her a month before she could see and acknowledge my changes and I'm not completely sure that she believes them all completely yet. I don't have to try to stay consistent, I am consistent because this is who I am. You need to really and truly believe in the changes that you make for yourself and do more than just act them out. Be a new man.
My W is floundering a bit right now because I believe that she is seeing what she would be giving up but she still feels the need for space. Time is on our side in this. D or no D, does it really make a difference? There are stories out there where people reconcile after a D. There's one in my own family and it took them two years. Don't give up hope.
I hope my little story helps in some way... B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
