Have I waited too long?

[cat11]

I've been fairly depressed since he dropped that last bombshell. Trying not to show it too much, as I know that's not the kind of person I want to show him. I even told him I've been afraid to try to initiate anything these last few weeks for fear he would just think it was too "contrived". He told me just not to worry...after the holidays we would try to get things figured out. I guess that could either mean once he gets back he wants to work on things or that then he'll make his decision about whether or not he wants to continue the marriage. I was planning on waiting til he's back to talk...I was afraid anything I say over the phone will just be empty words unless I can back it up with actions. That's why I've just been trying to show him in little ways...like the emails and my attitude that I'm upbeat and love him and miss him. Do you think that's a mistake? Should I go ahead and have the big conversation on the phone? I'm also anxiously awaiting the arrival of the SSM book. Hoping I can gather more tools to work on things in the mean time.