Oh Mat, Im trying not to( do anything drastic) as I don't know how much of this has to do with the situation with FIL. He is getting worse by the day and indicated to oldest BIL that he is tired of this. Don't know how much more time though they told us not long but, you never know what that is.
H is quiet but seems ok. Distant at times other times he is a little more affectionate. Though not what he was a few weeks ago.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
It's got to be rough!!!! My Grandfather died on Christmas Eve probably 20 years ago....and I still remember the phone call. The difference was that it was a sudden heart attack. I can't imagine just waiting and wondering. Does affect the holiday mood I am sure. (((Jak)))
FIl broke his hip yesterday in 4 places. There is nothing they can do. He will pass in the next few days. Hope not today as it is H's moms birthday. Mat you mentioned getting the call on Christmas eve. That is my Birthday. I got the call as im'e second contact for Fil and my sil was out of town. SHe is power of attorney and health care proxy. so I went to the hospital and tok care of palletive orders( not doing anything to prolong the inevitable) and had to refuse all sorts of treatment that wouldn't have done any good. It was the worst thing iv'e done i feel. Seems like your killing them your self. H was at work and with the sitch so up in the air everyone stayed at work and i kept them informed through out the day. when we went to bed last night H did give me a couple of kisses and a hug and told me thank you for being with dad today. Told him thank you. I would have done it even if we weren't together as they have been my parents too for 31 years
Just sucks but at least he will finally be at peace and H seems to be excepting it.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
I am so sorry Jak...I was wondering if you were gone dealing with your FIL. Take care and talk soon.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Wow... it's just so much. I hope you're doing ok and I hope you KNOW that you are making the right choices. (not to imply that you aren't as email can be rough that way - my point is that you ARE and I hope you realize it).
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Didn't want to miss wishing you a happy birthday on Christmas Eve, but I doubt I'll have much computer time at my sister's. Hope things are stable at this point. Thanks for your support and advice.
I am kind of thinking that things went downhill with FIL as you haven't been around. I am sorry you are dealing with this now.
Try and have a Merry Xmas and Happy Birthday!!!!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Hope you're doing OK.. thinking of you and wishing you the best possible Christmas under the circumstances!
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
