Life has been pleasant over the last few months. W is less "self-absorbed" and is conversing "to" me and not "at" me.
I looked after DD on Friday night (usually my nights to go out), and W told me that it was unfair on me, but I did not mind, as I wanted to spend it with DD. I then accepted an offer to babysit SIL's son tonight, with DD. I went to pick him up earlier this afternoon, and SIL told me how everyone hates OM, and how he made W pay for her own dinner at her birthday (when he went with her family). Also how he went up to the bar to buy himself a beer, after he was shouted several drinks from her family etc etc real tight arse.
She is being judged and harrassed by her whole family, and most of her friends, which is why she has made a new network of friends through OM. This is what has gone against me, the "under seige" mentality that has strengthened her resolve to be with OM. Also the fact that I think she is really in love with the muppet.
It really does annoy me that W does not care that he is so tight with his money, and that she pays for everything. She was so materialistic with me, that one of the reasons I wasn't there for her was because I was always working to pay for what she wanted. Hypocrytical if you ask me.
Enough of that, I should be focusing on the positives. Eventhough she is still with OM, she did offer and actually wrapped my Xmas presents that I had bought for my sister today. This is the first time she has done something for me in several months, and first time she has actually offered anything.
SIL told me that although her whole family think that this OM is a real loser, and all of them get a really bad vibe from him (also he is in massive debt, so W pays for their outings), W is really happy when she is around him, and SIL notices that W looks really "in love" with him.
She still sees him everyday, and is at his house tonight. Whilst I am at home looking after DD and W's nephew, go figure.
I will never stop wondering exactly what they see in these OP's, especially when they are so "different" to what they have walked away from (for the worse not for the better eg less generous, less thoughtful, shorter and less attractive etc etc.
It will be coming up to a year now that they have been together, and in my head I can't see it lasting much longer, but in my heart I think it will go the whole way, and W will make it work to prove everyone wrong.
