So at the end of the night of dancing laughing drinking, and rubbing up on you, he wanted to have sex.... with his wife. That is an odd expectation. I guess. Sounds like a test. To me.
I appreciate your comments and your view. It is but a snapshot of one thing that got coupled into lots of other things.
On the surface, if I were to read just what I wrote, I'd probably get the same feeling as you. But it wasn't that simple. I thought it was VERY cool that he would dance with me
There was an EXTREME power imbalance in my R. It wouldn't matter WHAT example I gave you, the results would have been the same. They would have been the same because of the imbalance, not because of the activity, not because I was being insensitive or because he was being placating. He didn't WANT to be placating anymore than I wanted to be insensitive. The power imbalance brought out those things in our personalities, and that is what did us in, because we could not get out of it. It wasn't from a lack of trying, either.
