Hey Jarhead \:\) Hmmm...the interaction at W's house w/OM is interesting. She called you and told you how she's feeling and asked you to do get the doll and blanket. Asked you to get food and you couldn't do that for her. Do you think she called OM and asked him to bring food? What's interesting to me is that he brought in food, yet you're the one she follwed out thanking and apologizing. Could it be that JH is slowly becoming a man that she doesn't take for granted and OM is filling those shoes? It sounds like she cast him aside and pursued you. I may be reading too much into it, but it caught my eye.

I think you're handling things perfectly. Your W seems to want someone else to take on responsibility where she's weak, but maybe she has more respect for a man who won't do that? It reminds me of a GF that my son had. He has very strong boundaries and co-dependent isn't in his vocabulary. He'll listen, support and comfort, but isn't a fixer. When he refused to fix her probs she would say that he made her feel bad about herself. She was looking for someone to save her from her probs and insecurities, not someone to share life with. It reminds me of you and your W. You've actually become stronger and more confident being apart from her. You handle your life great and your W is attracted to your confidence. Try to keep maintaining your boundaries and not become part of her problems.

Sheila