I avoid saying things like that because shes got such an irrational temper and I just dont want to deal with it.
She has you trained with her irrational temper. So now you have two irrational's.
Not wanting to deal with it has gotten you here. Now you say you are willing to stay 'here' for up to a year. What if she gets pregnant in that year? Then how long will you be willing to stay in this place?
If I had said that she would have been mad,
And? Is it bad if she is mad?
Newlywed, I am not saying this to be mean, but you are so lost, you dont even know your lost. She is much much better at the verbal arguments then you are correct? It tires you out and isnt fun and you just want to be kind to each other. Right? What if I tell you before it gets better its going to have to get much less fun, more tiring, less kind to each other. Do you have the energy and stomach for it?
If you give a gift to someone and they dont appreciate it, do you just keep giving them more gifts?
If I had said that she would have been mad, yelled at me for being crappy, turned it around on me saying somehting to the effect 'If you want to play games like that I can to" or "I didnt know I had to keep score of all the things you do for me so I can do them for you" or 'Well maybe if you would do ___ fo rme now and then id do ___ for you more"
Why dont you try coming up with a response for each one of these comments for her. I want to know how you feel about each one of these comments. Take you time.
When is the last time she rubbed your feet, cooked you a meal you like, washed your back.... anything? Are you her H, or are you her house boy?
