Blackfoot, I don't always grok everything you say,

Yeah. Im no Heinlein. \:\( and Lil keeps scribbling on my puctuation. but I dont like writing so you should just say thank you and muddle thru the meandering digressions of a puppyless genius with an excellent, superlative, bully, tremendous, magnificent, capital, first class .......vocabulary. *cracks up*

Whether you're looking for the manure or the pony ride makes a big difference.

Yes it does. It makes a huge difference. You can even enjoy cleaning up the manure, working the muscles, taking care of the animal, knowing there will be a pony ride. When I started actively looking for x's good traits to maintain my desire, is when I truly loved her. IMO. Untill then it was never owned by me. my attraction was up to her prior to that.

That's not placating; it's love. Why shouldn't I try to make it pleasant to keep his vows, as long as my personal integrity is not damaged in any way? This may be true but its subjective to their perspective. I cant control that. If I decide to do something for my SO, its up to them whether they see that as placating or caring for me.
Greeneyedlass used to talk about this also. Controlling your perspective.

as illusory as it sounds, intent does matter.

If they do, it will be at the sacrifice of their dignity and self-respect, which seems like a rather Pyrrhic victory. Again IMHO.
Strange. I used that same phrase talking to Stigmata here.

BTW, restraining myself from making an unsheathed Claymore joke with *extreme* difficulty .....

LOL. whatever do you mean?

And I hope you use Covergirl. 'Cause the nice stuff is bloody expensive.

at first I thought you were talking about the halloween dress up reference. Then I realized you meant the lipstick. They just seem so lost and abandoned, I figured they should be put to a *good* use. heh. MAC seems like an oddly masculine name for makeup. *cracks up again*
w: have you seen my lipstick
bf: was it the MAC or the clinique
w: it was the Lancome
bf: oh. yeah. I used it to write new good stuff on my mirror.
w: WHAT!!!
bf: It kinda broke too. so itll be shorter then you remember. Its not very strong.
w: WHAT!!
bf: I needed something to write with. Thanks. Good color BTW.
w: I cant believe $#@# #@$#$ $#@#$#
bf: haha just kidding. about the breaking part. its in the drawer.
w: #@$##$ %#$#@#$ $##@

So cute watching you ladies put your face on.
Of course, if its so expensive, why do you use it? bloody waste if you ask me. False advertising as well. Can be shocker sometimes, if you dont know what to look for. [--eek. she has no eyebrows. eek her eyebrows are on my pillow coyote ugly efforts ensue... wait. damn. this is my house. snort. ]

Women should only be allowed to wear make up when they go out of the house, and they should only be allowed out of the house on special occasions and holidays. under close supervision.