As for the “inevitable”: a girl, left alone to completely tend her own fences, will not usually feel honored that you trust her so much, she’ll think you don’t care if the fence holds or not, and act accordingly.

All I can say is OK. I should probably look for a woman and not a girl then. Would that make a differance?
If I didna care about the fence, I wouldna ask her to build it with me to begin with, lass. (sorry watching craig ferguson)

When people entrust me with their lives... when people entrust me with the lives of their children to travel around the world and do life support oriented sports, I am certainly honored by their trust. Thats the view I have.
Thats a pretty close approximation to the job I am giving my W. Yes?


If your ego is fluffed by sarcasm I applaud you for its adaptability.
[Takes bow.]Thank you. I am pretty adaptable. not very flexible though.

That’s not a weakness, that’s actually a useful talent. You recognize patterns. As do I. That’s why I always do well on standardized tests because all they really are is pattern recognition.

You chose to ignore my stated weakness, and focus on my strength that we have in common. Very common in the beginning, and I appreciate that, but I wonder if you saw my weakness. Do you really know me? Do you see me for who I am? Once you acknowledge the weakness, I know you see it. Will you still like me? Are you going to help me with it, or beat me with it. If your icked out by it, I know a) you cant help me with it and b) you dont like all of me.
(Im not serious about the you and I part, but I am serious about the dynamic.)

When someone tells you their weakness what do you (general you) do with it?

But I distinctly recall from reading “The Guide to Getting it On” as a teen that it basically said “we interviewed thousands of people, male, female, old, young, gay, straight, about their sexual preferences .. and the only thing they all had in common is that they all enjoy a good backrub”.

Well thats a good thing for a book to say, because then your not inclined to think you allready know the answer (which is not attractive --like say, interest in, and awareness of the other person). The not so smart part of it is believing what people say, especailly in an interview. Watch what they do, to see the truth. If they match, THEN you can believe them.
I read an Excerpt from the spears girl's interview about what she thinks of premarital sex and pregnancy...and she is 16 and pregnant...I ROTFLMAO. I think they should have asked her about sex with older men and statutory rape laws as well. *tears of laughter*

They take perfectly respectable science and a flippant remark and turn it into the philosophy of doom.

Science and numbers just report facts. If your sisters in arms were not creating the data, with there tromping upon the poor miseducated and incorrectly indoctrinated men with their high heels, *wink wink* just because they can, I would not have a philosophy of doom.
Just yesterday a woman said to me, [long convo about D- she was gloating about twisting him]
'I cant stand it when men cower.'
I said 'I have two questions for you. why is he cowering? and why are you doing the thing that makes him cower if you dont like it.
w: 'I dont know. Why?
bf: [cracks up] You want me to tell you- why you are doing something? Ill tell you why he is cowering. How about that? Because your threatening everything he cares about. If a pyscho told you he was going to wipe out your family, would you beg him not to?
w: so I am a pyscho?
bf: you tell me.
w: your not very nice.
bf: I dont have to be. I dont have a pyscho threatening my family. *smile*

Ignoring facts seems dangerous. I completely and utterly support M. I encourage men to work on being more Attractive, which is quite counter intuitive and NOT easy in a LTR. I dont support blushing cinderella's with rapiers behind their back -sticking clueless and helpless men in the wallet and heart- while making confabulated excuses to everyone else.
I also dont support men who shirk responsibility and abandon their families. The law has that handled pretty well for those who make use of it.
Being pro man, does not make me anti woman. I take M seriously. maybe too seriously, but I wont apologize for that.

If I weren't married to a remarkable exception I'd retire to a convent and raise peas It takes two, so kudo's to you as well. I love your flippant remarks (raise peas? peas? where did you come up with peas? Ive laughed so much reading here the past couple days. I love this place. ) and essays that *amuses self*. They really really amuse me as well. fait accompli.