Here we go 'round in circles...

[Jen_Jam]

You are all most welcome to come over to my place - I would LOVE to have you all stay!!! Maybe a little late for this xmas though ...

It's a shame H went to LW's party ... yes part of me thinks he "should" have not gone but then that sounds like controlling ... and no-one wants a R where the other person feels compelled, it all has to be out of choice. But what could you have done? yes, say you'd prefer he didn't but that he was free to go, but then even that may have sounded a little like controlling. it's a tough one.

Ok - your H being a pleaser - mine too (although nowdays he's not a complete pushover like he used to be). And so it leads to a family holiday you're not 100% happy with, but I can see you will make the best of it. Do you maybe feel that H is pushing you down on his list of priorities? I sometimes feel like this, that work, the gym, having a quick pint come first before me. In my case, i've paid attention and note that sometimes I come firsst, sometimes second, sometimes way down the list. As long as some of the time I come first I'm happy to let the other times drop. But I sense it may be different for you ... do you ever feel as if you come first with H? If he were to be putting you first sometimes, what would he be doing? I'm fishing here ... remember in the DR book it states that we should be specific ... what does "more intimacy" look/feel like to you (if you answer this question remember this is a family website, LOL). Communicating that to H, maybe could help? If you've already done it maybe try again?

Ok - onto you.So stuck in Hawaii huh? Gosh, life gets hard - wanna swap? It's flippin' freezig here!!! I'm joking of course. I'm off work now until Jan 2nd - woo hoo - so if you need some rant time chances are I'm gonna be around. If it all gets a bit much let the steam riase off the keyboard.

Chin up, stay with us and have a lovely Xmas