IC, did you have sex with the OW? (You know what I mean by "sex," right? IC, oral, manual, nakedness, etc.) How long did this go on? Who ended it?
Does it matter? But yes to all the above. Maybe 45 minutes. Mutual, invited back to her place. Gave me directions in case our cars were seperated while driving...went home instead.
Originally Posted By: Lillieperl
Did Miss IC take the kids to her parents' for Christmas leaving you at home alone?
The whole A lasted 45 minutes? You had IC, oral, manual, and were naked IN THE CAR?
Depriving you of Christmas with the kids (and them of Christmas with you) seems a bit overboard to me. Even if you were divorced, chances are you'd figure out a way for the kids to have Christmas with each parent.
Are you going to call her in a day or so and invite yourself out?
The whole A lasted 45 minutes? You had IC, oral, manual, and were naked IN THE CAR?
That's pretty much it in a nut shell...sex in her car - rough guestimate on the time.
Originally Posted By: Lillieperl
Depriving you of Christmas with the kids (and them of Christmas with you) seems a bit overboard to me. Even if you were divorced, chances are you'd figure out a way for the kids to have Christmas with each parent.
Are you going to call her in a day or so and invite yourself out?
We already had the plane tickets to Florida. She was dealing with the after shock of my "great" news and wanted time away from me. I'm respecting her terms and giving her the space she is asking for.
No I'm not going to call. She asked me to give her a few days to think things through and she would call me. I have talked to the girls. To make it easier on them to understand, I left it as "Daddy has to work, or he would be there" Wrong?...yes, but they're 5 and 3...not quite prepared for the truth yet.
The whole A lasted 45 minutes? You had IC, oral, manual, and were naked IN THE CAR?
Lil,
FWIW...Let me clarify by adding that this was in the parking lot of a busy sports bar. Things were kind of hurried and cut short by pedestrian traffic...hence the invite to her place.
Well, IC, your KIDS don't deserve to be deprived of Daddy's hugs and smiles on Christmas morning because you did something wrong. Who's getting punished here?
It's rough being told 2 days before you're 7th anniversary, by your husband, that he f*cked some woman in the back seat of her car.
Yep. And right before Christmas too. I almost think that would throw me more than the anniversary. I don't know....Christmas is just so BIG, involving the whole family. It would be ruined for me.
I would have done exactly what Miss IC has done. I don't think it's overboard at all. I would want to put serious space between myself and my H and no way would I leave my kids behind right before Christmas. Why should I? I didn't have the ONS and I didn't decide to pick the week before Christmas to fess up.
IC, I think you're doing the right thing letting her have her space right now. She'll talk when she's ready.
ETA: What I said isn't about punishment. I honestly don't know if I could stomach being in the same room as my cheating H on Christmas. I sure wouldn't be able to act like all was OK. Reading this thread has made me feel a little sick, to be honest.
