[Have you made yourself a Plan of Action for building your M into something better? Care to share it? It's SOOOO tempting to take things slower, and relax - 'cause let's face it, that frantic energy that comes from being bombed and DBing like crazy is pretty hard to maintain!
Well, we're working on this in MC. The C asked me what I still wanted in the M...and I said I wanted true intimacy. H and I are friendly and get along, but that's not enough for me. I want real intimacy in my R...and it's something I'm working on with friends as well. Trust is a really challenging area for me, and so I imagine this will be somewhat of a long process.
So the MC gave us an assignment to be spontaneous and lighten up a bit with each other on our trip to Hawaii (even though we knew we'd be sharing a bedroom w/another couple and under lots of stress). Has it worked? Not so well. He's so uptight...really...and I am more the laugh l loudly-speak my mind-playful type. It makes it hard.
I have to say, I kind of want a whole lot more from him. Don't know if he'll deliver, but I'm willing to try and give him the space and patience to give me what I want in a partner as well. We'll see. In the meantime, I'm working on myself and making myself happy.
Have a great Christmas!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
