Thanks, Jen. Glad to know this is "normal" or whatever you want to call it. Not normal, but not the crazy path we were on originally.
Ah, LW's party. I told H I didn't want to go, that because I value myself I was making the choice not to attend. I told him he was free to go if he wished with my blessings.
He went.
So...I had to do some personal work around that. What I should have done if I was being completely true to myself is tell him I would prefer it if he didn't go, but that it was his choice. That would have been the honest answer. Instead, I was being the "good" wife...and I vowed not to hold those things to myself any longer. Anyway, he went, and so I went out with friends instead. Nothing major, but like I said I *did* have to do a lot of work on myself and taking responsibility for my feelings.
We're in Hawaii for a family vacation now...Oahu. Not the island we would have picked, and lots of "have" to's for his mom who is determined to have happyfamilychristmaskumbyya. H becomes such a pleaser around his family...and as such it's not been a whole lot of fun. Some good things, especially when we get out of the city to see the island instead of awful Waikiki, LOL. Right now I'm in the lobby on my laptop taking some SD sanity time so I can maintain my peace!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
