Have I waited too long?

[cat11]

Thanks for your quick reply Lil. We do not have any kids together but H has a daughter in another state from a previous marriage. He visits her frequently and has always spent Christmas with her and his family (they all live in his hometown). I've always stayed here to spend Christmas with my family. Thanks for the tips on posts to search for. I'll do that right now. I think your idea of asking for a lenghth of time is a good one. I really need him to know that I'm not just asking him to hang in limbo forever. He doesn't want to leave. I know that. I'm in tears right now typing this. I know I'm so lucky to have him and I'm so ashamed that I've let it get to this point.