My H says nothing about the situation whatsoever. He doesn't say he wants to come home. He used to say he is never coming home (not sure if that still stands). Is very careful not to reveal anything about the MOW and their R and where it is at.
I know nothing. I am totally leaving him in God's hands.
As for Christmas, we were at his sister's last year as well altogether but it was extremely awkward. H cried in a room by himself. His mom was uncomfortable. And it was not good.
This year will be better. I am in a more confident place. I have nothing to lose. MIL flew the coop to FIL so it will just be siblings--spouses and cousins. My C told me tonight she thinks H will be stuck to me like glue there. Who knows.
I am very close to both sister's hosting this year's events and their spouses. I work with one BIL and he is an angel. So I think it should be ok but we never know with our MLCers.
I have told H before that I would not want him home until he gets help and fixes himself. Not sure why he all of a sudden is going to C and taking meds but my expectations are totally at zero.
Went to see my C tonight. Hadn't been in months. She was shocked that h was in counseling and taking meds. She thought he would be the last one to ever do it. Who knows if he will stick with it but I pray he will.
Anyway, off to pick up d12 from swimming. Then getting s15 from the movies. I am so tired.....and so tired of doing it alone.