She keeps blaming the school, the teachers, me, etc.
A good response could be "I know the teachers etc are failing, but what can we do to help the children". Then try and work on an action plan together with her, even let her think it's her idea.
this is great advice. A great way to validate and try to come up with a solution.
That is hard when the kids are struggling. How long has it been going on? It could have something to do with the emotional rift between mom and dad. Kids are amazingly receptive to their parents. Even my 3 year old will ask me why I'm sad sometimes. I'm trying to act normal, but it's like they can sense it.
Not sure what finances are like, but would it be possible to get them into some counseling? i went when i was little for a couple different things and while i don't remember most of it now (i was 5-7) my mom said that it made a huge difference in all aspects of my life, school, behavior, making friends. Just an idea. this would also be something you guys could get together and talk about if you think she'd be receptive to it.
Not sure what to tell you about the legal/financial side. I do know that i have an issue with women that walk away and still expect their LBS to pay for everything. Not sure if it is like that here, but sounds like it might be. Best i can come up with is figuring out a budget between the two of you, yet another reason to get together.
ann
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