Help.. H has lost it!!!!

[MissH]

Lisa, ImLIn is right. You need to call authorities.

I had to call the police on my H one night. It was the hardest thing to do but I knew it had to be done. He made a threat on my life. He told me he was going to run me off the road and make it look like an accident so he could get custody of the kids. In all reality I didn't think he would do anything but he became someone that I didn't really know so there was no saying for sure he wouldn't do something stupid. He needed to know I wasn't going to take his words lightly.

I am sorry you are going thru this. I do want you to put yourself and your chilren first and saving your M second. I had to do that, I had no choice.

(((((hugs)))))

[LisaLost]

he is asking for a divorce now- he left about 4 I love you messages- then a i love you text - then i called him and he said he wants a divorce- who wants to bet? it's yet another woman-

why?

why?b/c i let him do this, i let him get away with it and come home too many times- now the kids and Iwill pay again

[LisaLost]

here I go again- should I just give up? It has gotten hard to love him- Is it time to let go? He is not truly addressing his issues- I am so confused and scared to make the wrong choice

I am just journaling here I guess. I mean 3 women in 2 years?

Love,Lisa

[palgal]

Do you still love him?

Why do you think you still love him?

[LisaLost]

I don't know

Sounds crazy right?

I wish I knew

[Virtually_Handsome]

OK, Lisa, I am going to say some stuff that might not sound nice, but it is to make you think, ok?

Do you love him? Or are you scared of what life will be for you and the kids will be like without him?

Do you love him, or do you think you need a man, and you are afraid that with 5 kids, no other man is going to want you, so you will take whatever part of him you can get?

I think I know, but I want you to think about it. Think about what he has done, and for how long. I know a lot of people will say it's ok, but he's got 5 kids he is responsible for, and he's been doing pot (at least) the whole time.

Lisa, the world is scary, but you don't need a man, any man, if it isn't right for you. There are people that can help you, who will want to, if you let them. Think carefully.

In my opinion, the only way I'd want him, back (well, I'm a guy, so I wouldn't anyway, but you know what I mean) was if the first thing he did was check in to a residential mental health facility to figure out what is going on. He's passed a few hours of therapy.

((((Lisa))))

Jeff

[LisaLost]

Jeff,

You are so very spot on here. I am scared of life without him even though I have been w/o before, I am very terrified. I know that I don't need a man- I do know that- I do wonder about having 5 kids but they won't be at home forever. It really hurts that I tried so hard these past 2 years and it has blown up in my face.

I AM VERY SCARED- EMOTIONALLY< FINACIALLY, everyway

Love,Lisa

[Virtually_Handsome]

Forgetting DBing for a bit....which way are you going to be better off, say 5 or ten years from now?

[LisaLost]

I am lost on that answer too- That is my main issue b/c what if he gets better? worse? what if he gets the help he needs? what is he doesn't? I would love to remain married and hope that my love for him develops again- Love is a choice but I can't waste my life or my kids emotions so there is my dilema and I am sure we all have those same questions,lol, does anyone have that crystal ball ready yet?

Thanks
Lisa

[Virtually_Handsome]

Totally lack crystal ball. How long has he been going downhill? You know him more than anyone here, what do you see him doing? Really, not what you hope, wish, and pray for.