It's funny when this happens isn't it? In some ways it feels good because you don't feel the overwhelming sense of loss and sadness and in other ways you wonder if your feelings are going away. I understand the confusion.

I think you're just getting stronger. You're getting to the place where you're going to be ok regardless of what happens. I find the less my H acts like himself...the more I feel that way. It's the days when when we have 'normal' converstaions that I feel the longing for him.
I think when you start to have days when you don't feel a whole lot, that's when you can truly focus on yourself and let your W sit back and watch how stable you are. Doesn't mean it's gone...just means you're focused on you, and so you should be.

Have fun tonight.
J~


M 35
H 29
M 4 yrs T 9 yrs
D 3
S born 10/19/07
Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day
OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08
Status - still figuring this out