OK, Lisa, I am going to say some stuff that might not sound nice, but it is to make you think, ok?
Do you love him? Or are you scared of what life will be for you and the kids will be like without him?
Do you love him, or do you think you need a man, and you are afraid that with 5 kids, no other man is going to want you, so you will take whatever part of him you can get?
I think I know, but I want you to think about it. Think about what he has done, and for how long. I know a lot of people will say it's ok, but he's got 5 kids he is responsible for, and he's been doing pot (at least) the whole time.
Lisa, the world is scary, but you don't need a man, any man, if it isn't right for you. There are people that can help you, who will want to, if you let them. Think carefully.
In my opinion, the only way I'd want him, back (well, I'm a guy, so I wouldn't anyway, but you know what I mean) was if the first thing he did was check in to a residential mental health facility to figure out what is going on. He's passed a few hours of therapy.
