well that was highly unproductive. I got three hugs, and a "I'll see you later." He said he was going to cook himself dinner and sit by the fire with his room-mate because they're gay. He said, "I give up, I'm just gay now." I guess he isn't getting too many bites on his dating profiles. I wasn't rude but I didn't act like I wanted to hang around either. Just walked in, got my stuff and went out to my car and he followed (putting out the recycling). He asked if I was going to my mom's for Christmas, which I am, I asked what he was doing and he said golfing, and staying home. As tempted as I was to ask him to dinner, I did not. We'll see if there is any contact, but I am not going to be the one to initiate it. I hate this crap!
M 29/H32 M 7yrs/1 dog Bomb 10/18 M in apt 11/13/ H in the house 1st now
Thank you B. Things are ok, I guess. I went out with a friend last night wearing the cutest little outfit in hopes of running into him. I didn't, so I called for a "booty call" (instead of the other way around-do something different, do a 180-I rarely intiated). He said he was there and didn't see me either. So I went to spend the night. He said he was really tired and had to go to sleep, because he hasn't been sleeping well for about a month and hasn't been feeling well. Funny things is, when he had his blow up (11/30), he told me that he was sleeping better, didn't have to take his sleeping pills anymore, and that he wasn't feeling sick anymore. When we were dating, he would call me and tell me that he couldn't sleep because I wasn't there with him, and when I was he would have to be touching me (to make sure I was there). I loved that. Last night we each had a hand on each other. Then we got up and went to work, and he gave me a hug and I kissed him goodbye (at least he kissed me back and didn't turn away).
M 29/H32 M 7yrs/1 dog Bomb 10/18 M in apt 11/13/ H in the house 1st now
That all sounds positive. I'm glad your 180 paid off and you got to spend some time with him. About the sleeping thing... They make their worlds out to be going great. They don't want you to see that they are having a difficult time with their decisions. That's why DB says not to believe much of what they say and half of what they do...
Peace, B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
They make their worlds out to be going great. They don't want you to see that they are having a difficult time with their decisions. That's why DB says not to believe much of what they say and half of what they do...
True dat.
My W has been telling a mutual friend over and over how happy she is, and she was saying that a lot to me too in e-mail. Then she maybe slipped a little on the phone that she's had a lot of bad days, and I didn't hear a ton of happiness on the phone either...they likely want us to think that leaving is the best thing they've ever done, and to reinforce to themselves it's the right decision. Can't focus too much on what they say, just gotta let them figure things out and maybe they'll realize this isn't the best decision they've ever made.
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021
YOU DID THAT!?! I think it's great. A very cool present. Are you going to frame it for him to? I'm guessing that it's your dog and not just a random dog, but either way it's cool. If I sent you some pictures of my dogs, how much would you charge for something like that?
Don't be critical of yourself. I'm no art critic, but I like it.
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
Yes I did that, that is Rahja, my baby-girl. I am going to get a frame for it. When I was moving out he had mentioned something about me doing a drawing for him, since I was going to physically have her. So I thought that would be a good gift for him, it doesn't cost anything, except a little bit of time.
No charge, B.
M 29/H32 M 7yrs/1 dog Bomb 10/18 M in apt 11/13/ H in the house 1st now
