You have to realize that wasn't him last night. Here is the deal, he is crying on his friends shoulder. She had an EA, sent pic's to X, blah blah blah. Why doesn't she love, I'm so pissed off.
So then he comes home, and well he has to show his friend that he doesn't care about you. He has to reaffirm the crap he just told his friend. So he acts all hard and cold all night.
See he has shared with the worst with friend. Probably didn't mention that a couple nights ago she tried initiating sex with me. So you get painted in this bad light, friend is apathetic, I'm sorry your dealing with that, etc. Well when you only see part of the picture, you can't assess it all. So don't take it personally.
In all honesty, your H has no self-esteem right now. I mean none. I've been there, and not only does he not want to have sex with you, he probably feels he doesn't deserve to have sex with you. You can't do anything about your M or R, until this guy stands for himself a bit.
Go by Men are from Mars book. It has some great communication skills tools that will help build him up. Also don't let him see you reading any more of these "R" books, that tells him he has failed and the R is broken.
