it's funny. i've been rereading my entire thread because i feel like i keep having the same issues over and over again, I'm thinking that i need to stop doing whatever i'm donig cause it must not be working, but most of the time, the cause is different, so who knows...
We had one of his friends stay over, he works in our area, but lives over 2 hours away, so when he works late, sometimes he stays over. We met him about 8 years ago and have been close friends ever since. I kinda feel like he's the brother i never had. We joke and harass each other. It's funny.
Last night H was in a bad mood. Not sure why, frustration from the day probably. I asked how his day went. "fine" tried to ask for some details "it was fine" (OKAAAY... sorry. hehe) so I changed the subject. We talked about the girls for a second, then nothing. I'm over the talking thing, when he's ready he'll start responding to questions.
We get home and after dinner he goes into his office to work. He had told me he was done, but whatever. I just said ok. I started folding some laundry and talking to our friend. I made some comment about my D3 not eating her food that H shared with her and said whatever at the end (about D) he didn't hear the whole conversation and thought that i was saying something bad about him. I tried to explain and he just says "uh yeah... whatever" and walks away. I took some deep breaths and continued what i was doing. Later H comes out and tells me he needs the table that i could be doing something more productive than just folding the laundry anyways. ok... i went to load the dishwasher from after dinner.
he won't say more than two words to me, so I'm talking to our friend, making jokes and stuff, H makes a joke about me. I normally mess with him when he does that, so i did, kinda bumped into him and i guess he wasn't ready for it. I apologized and he said "what are you f*cking retarded." I just walked away. I'm emotional and frustrated with his attitude, so talking to him about it would have been disasterous. we pretty much avoided talking or interacting for the rest of the night.
I still had it in my head to make up for the last few nights. so, we got in bed. I didn't give him a chance to talk. It went fine. he seemed happy. Afterwards (like 20-30 minutes) he apologizes for his attitude. he said he had a bad day and he was sorry. Now, don't get me wrong, I appreciate the apology and told him how much i did and that i understand it's been some long frustrating days lately, but (i didn't say this to him) why is it that i have to have sex w/ him to get an apology. Prior to that he wasn't even talking to me. it was really hard to do that for me expecially after how he had been talking to me, but... it's just frustrating.
don't know if i'm looking for any response here... mostly just venting.
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