I went to the Attorney General's office yesterday to work out Child Support. My wife is claiming food stamps and Temporary Income Assistance. Agreed Child Support and Medicaid costs starting 1st January 2008.
The child support lady asked wife whether there was any pending divorce and wife said she was seeking legal aid for this but not pending. She has already told me this would be in January.
I told her that if this D happened then I would move on and would not be around for her as a friend. This was after she said that she still wanted me in her life. I am sorry but I have taken this sitch so badly, that being friends would continue to hurt me. It would hurt to not be friends but not as much as pain as I have gone through to get where I am right now. Interaction with her messes with my head. I know that I should not let it but it does and she is alright and I am not.
Both wife and I do not have much money for christmas for the children. Got a phone call today from wife asking whether I wanted to go christmas shopping for the children. I said money has not turned up from my mother for me to buy christmas gifts for the children and I am unlikely to get paid before christmas. So told her not worth me going with her.
She said that she had some money and we could pick out gifts together and put our names on the gifts for them. This is a very generous offer as otherwise I may not be able to get anything for them. However, my pride says if I am in this mess regarding money then it is for me to explain the situation to my children and secondly, I find it difficult to accept help from my wife after what she has done to me.
She said "well I just thought you would want to be involved in their christmas". OF COURSE I DO. I wanted them to be in a loving family where the mother and father loved each other and we lived together but she took that away!
I know she does not have a car at the moment and OM is working tomorrow.
I know that this is most probably a stupid question but if anybody has any thoughts, they would be appreciated?
