Noticing a few trends, I thought I'd do a mini survey.
Age at separation (you/partner)? Sex (you/partner)? Who left? How long were you together at time of separation? Current status? (Separated/Divorced/Piecing/Reconciled) Time since sep? Partner's status?
40(F)/44(M) WAH Together 12.5 years Married 10 Current status separated since 8/04/07 H in hurry to file anticipate mid-jan 08 filing which would make Divorce final about mid april As far as I know, he doesn't have a GF.
So, will you be posting your hypothesis?
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
I'm just interested in the stats, looking at people's sigs makes me think there are definite clusters. I want to know if it's just me or really true, I need data, data, data and the more the better.
Me 36 W 37 Bomb (Easter 07) Sep (WAW July 07) "It's over" (end Oct 07) T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)
34(F), 34(M)WAH, T9, M7, S(2mos), HIS status? He claims he's not seeing anyone else. I suspect he's at least thinking about it.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Letting you know that this makes me think you are putting together some sort of study.
Age at separation (you 34 /partner33)? Sex (you M /partner F)? Who left? - She did, stayed with friend, then I kicked her out fully. How long were you together at time of separation? 6 years Current status? Not complacent. Rebuilding. Sorry don't like the Time since sep? 22 mo. Partner's status? Married to me.
Hard numbers do not really help here. Telling someone that well statistically based on your numbers you have a 23.4 chance of reconciling...
At least with hope it is 100% as long as it lasts. Know what I mean?
Last edited by Jack_Three_Beans; 12/21/0708:46 PM.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I'm not putting together a study (other than looking more closely at a pattern I think may be present). I'm curious, from a purely personal level, to see whether the numbers do follow the pattern that seems evident from people's sigs. I know there is nothing you can do with the stats on an individual level, but I think it might say something about a stage some people pass through which I find interesting.
I certainly don't mean to offend anyone and there is no ulterior motive other than my own personal interest. Apologies if it causes any offence.
Max
Me 36 W 37 Bomb (Easter 07) Sep (WAW July 07) "It's over" (end Oct 07) T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)
Me 32 (F) H 34 (M) T- 12 years M- Almost 5 He left, didn't know what he wanted, depressed Status- No OW, still living apart but trying I think Been gone since Sept. 07
Me:32 H: 34 T: 12 YEARS M: ALMOST 5 S: 8 D: 4 S: 14 (OTHER R) SEPERATED: 03/09/07 (but wanted to work on it) NEW SEPERATION: 27/11/07 (doesn't know what he wants) MOVED HOME 12/01/08 I'm acting as if this blue sky is never going to rain down on me....Sara Evans
Age at separation (you/partner)? Both 28 Sex (you/partner)? F/M Who left? He did. How long were you together at time of separation? Together 10 years, M almost 5, (he left a couple of weeks before anniversary #5). Current status? (Separated/Divorced/Piecing/Reconciled) Separated Time since sep? Almost 15 months, (he left Oct 3 '06) Partner's status? Started dating OW soon after leaving and as far as I know has been shacked up with her, playing step-daddy to her kid, for the better part of a year.
Me:30 H:30 Together:10yr H left:Oct3'06,couple weeks before 5th wed anniv. No Kids OW bomb:Jan19'07 My thread: He filed.
Age: Me 43 W: 36 Together: 8 1/2 M: 7 Separated since 9/29/07 W asked me to leave 1 daughter age 6 1/2 W filed Dbed for 3 months with limited success Wife is now dating We are getting divorced
