Ah the friendly smile of the chesire cat. I know it well. :-) See SG, I dont think women have feeble minds. In fact they occasionally keep me on my toes, with there verbal quickness and directness. I do think women are designed/evolved a certain way, and untill they are aware of it and acknowledge it and accept it, they wont be able to (minimally)control it anymore then if I would be able to (minimally) control myself if I didnt acknowledge who and what I am.
See we no longer have strict externally enforced boundaries on adultery like we used to. It wasnt 100% effective then, its certainly not going to be effective relying on internal boundaries, in our culture, for myriads of reasons. Im inclined to believe your previous 'inevitible' statement. I was just hoping you would expound from a femal POV.
There were never effective external boundaries against adultery, at any point in human history. Look at Y-DNA studies to see how completely unrelated Y-Chromosomes filter into families where they have no business of being. There used to be effective external boundaries against divorce, at least in our society. Not the same thing.
But yes, I’m totally with you that we each as individuals need to set up their own external boundaries, which was the gist of my post to the ICs. Much more efficient, imo.
As for the “inevitable”: a girl, left alone to completely tend her own fences, will not usually feel honored that you trust her so much, she’ll think you don’t care if the fence holds or not, and act accordingly.
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Either you believe I am a superior male, which prompts me to not trust you, because you cant discern reality, and are going to expect more then my fair share from me in a R, or your being sarcastic and self deprecating. My ego is large enough, I dont like having it fluffed.
If your ego is fluffed by sarcasm I applaud you for its adaptability.
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See Ill let you in on a secret. Give away one of my weaknesses. Lets see what you do with it. I dont have an original or creative bone in my body. What I do have is a slightly high level of comprehension and take apparently disparate concepts and put them together.
That’s not a weakness, that’s actually a useful talent. You recognize patterns. As do I. That’s why I always do well on standardized tests because all they really are is pattern recognition. What you have to remember is that it’s only valid when you’re looking at fairly large numbers and may or may not be helpful on an individual level.
I understand you’re a man on a mission, you want use your insights into patterns for the benefit of your brethren and use the women here on your chessboard to demonstrate the Grand Strategy: “see, if I move my Knight like this women will respond by protecting their Bishop” and hope it will be useful to the men. Which is fine, in and of itsself.
But I distinctly recall from reading “The Guide to Getting it On” as a teen that it basically said “we interviewed thousands of people, male, female, old, young, gay, straight, about their sexual preferences .. and the only thing they all had in common is that they all enjoy a good backrub”.
Doesn’t mean that patterns aren’t very useful, just that they have limitations, especially in something as fickle and multi-factorial as sexual attraction in long term human pair bonding. Something that applies to “most women” may or may not apply to your wife or girlfriend, simply because she may be farther up or down the greyscale than the average.
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Thats my style, this was yours. both work for the intended.
I agree.
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ascerbic sarcasm from a southern girl. must be one of those bayou girls, and not a belle. Highly unrefined. Im cut to the quick of my wide heart. [sound of ice tinkles]
All Belles are part lace and part rapier. Some of us are almost all rapier.
